This tweet is so important to me
This tweet is so important to me
"So, reading those three paragraphs above? I bet at some point you recoiled a bit, even if you don’t want to have recoiled a bit. Don’t I sound selfish? Hedonistic? Isn’t there something very unfeminine about my bluntness here? Hell, I’m performing against gender norms so hard that even I recoil a little.
This is actually what I think, and I feel zero guilt about it, but I know that saying so out loud will cause people to want to hit me with the Bad Woman ruler, and that causes a little dread. Why do we feel this way?
What kind of training and socialization did we receive that made us think there’s something terribly wrong about a woman who is hurting no one and is actually pretty nice but wants what she wants in her private life and doesn’t apologize about it? Is there a reason that we should bully women into pretending that they’re more interested in being selfless and eternally nurturing than they actually are, even at great cost to themselves?”
Who really benefits from the pink ribbon campaigns: the cause or the company? In showing the real story of breast cancer and the lives of those who fight it, this film reveals the co-opting of what marketing experts have labeled a “dream cause.”
If you’re a woman, take the time to watch the documentary Pink Ribbons, Inc.
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Glad to see this on Tumblr. I don’t Pink. I don’t Run for a Cure. Write a check to your favorite women’s health charity.
I want a cure, I want research and support services and free diagnosis and treatment, I want lives saved. I do not give a flying fuck about pink ribbons, when less than 25% of Komen’s budget goes into research, but they do litigiously pursue competing organizations for trademark infringement.
Find an org that is all about research or care or free services or support and write a check, click a donate button, give to someone who calls you but stop supporting an org that doesn’t do the actual work.
seriously, everyone should see this.
The industry standard for nonprofits is that only 10-20% of donations go to cost of operations (like paying employees, office supplies, promotional materials) and the other 80-90% goes to the cause. It’s a good, simple litmus test and all 501(c) 3 charities (aka tax deductible charities) must share that information with the public. If a charity doesn’t pass that test, they are really just a corporation in disguise.
I am seeing C again next Thursday after he’s done work stuff in Italy/I’ve gone back to the IOM. And it’s somehow turned out that I’m cooking him dinner.
H E L P
I have never cooked dinner for a man in my life. Can you believe that? I’ve always been cooked for. Never the other way round.
And I’m feeling the pressure! I’m thinking steak because it’s always delicious (and I can actually cook it) and I’d like to keep it low carb, too. I want to blow his mind though, ANY SUGGESTIONS for yummy, impressive low carb food gratefully received.
Must be meat-heavy for 6ft 2 muscle bound freak, must take less than 1 hour, must have an interesting flavour but not too spicy because he’s a terrible British Caribbean.
Guys I’m really starting to like him and I did NOT see that coming…
That’s it. That’s steak.
My favorite kind of selfie.
The Philadelphia Phillies used children’s drawings of the starting lineup on the scoreboard in place of their official photos. [deadspin]
The houses of Game of Thrones reimagined as modern brands (x)
i think i choked on tears at ‘Frey celebrations’
the frey one killed me!
The Frey one killed everyone.
I never thought I would have a reason to like Denny’s.
reminder that no one is required to love their parents because a lot of people do have genuinely shitty parents and if you invalidate people’s feelings about their toxic parents i’ll probably punch you in the throat
And the corollary to this is that it’s also ok for them to have mixed feelings about their toxic parents. I know I shouldn’t talk to my mom for more than about 30 minutes per month but I still love her.
What’s the obsession men have with a girl who has a flat stomach? I hear a lot of popular music emphasizing that trait as being attractive in women…
My theory? It’s part of the same trend that glorifies women with zero body hair, extra-long non-muscular legs, no visible muscles anywhere, and small breasts. Because having a poofy stomach and body hair and visible muscles and hips and breasts and cellulite - these are all part of the “yes I have graduated from puberty and I’m now an adult.” That other stuff? When you look at in a cohesive context of our greater culture, it screams prepubescent, small, submissive, easy to control. It’s all about woman as object.